In pursuit of coming ALIVE

Making Life My Art April 29, 2016

“To make living itself an art, that is the goal” Henry Miller

I am a creator; an idea person. Yet, so many great ideas have become a lady in waiting, until they give up on me and move on to the next soul, ready to make manifest of them. It often baffles me to remember that everything starts with a thought and turns into form. Everything from a canvas, to the world around us, to who we become.

Creating makes me feel alive. That, and swimming in the sea and giggling with my children. I used to spend hours in creative bliss; writing and painting through twilight until the sun began to rise. Now, I create in stolen moments, scribbling down parts of myself in chicken scratch while cooking the rice and vegetables for dinner. Stolen moments are the most potent. Creation is not always convenient. And when there is inspiration and energy left in the reserves, I sit in the glow of my computer screen at night, after the kids are snuggled into their beds, pounding away at the keys on my computer; hoping and praying that what is rising up from within me isn’t total garbage. And it rarely is! Because it is raw and gritty and real.

My art is life. How I choose to show up; will it be with intended strokes, or with a spew of feeling splattered on everything around me? It is both. I will leave beautiful color of love wherever I go.








Building on bones February 16, 2016

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I’m fleshing it out. Beyond the bones. Toward expansive, limitless creation.







28 Days February 11, 2016

“Food is such an intimate experience, even more so than sex. Everything we put in our mouth touches our insides, affects how we grow, affects how we age, affects how we behave. It defines who we are.” -Monica Bhide

It has been over three years since I first read this quote by Monica Bhide. The first time I read it, a light bulb illuminated in my mind and I thought “hell yeah it is” and “fuck yeah it does”. Now, this idea makes it’s way back to my consciousness as day 10 of a 28 day intensely intimate journey letting food be my guide for healing, comes to a close.  When I tell people I am only eating fruits, vegetables (mostly raw) and sprouts and drinking herbal tea and fresh pressed juices for 28 days, I can see the sheer terror in their eyes. And those who really know me say, “wait, you’re not drinking any alcohol for 28 whole days….that’s crazy”. Yup…I have gone coo coo bananas over here! Honestly, when I began this cleanse, I was terrified. I was afraid that I would fail, of what would come up in the space I was about to create. What the hell was to become of my social life?!

The fear of not being able to do it is curious to me because I have spent large chunks of time in my life studying the benefits of raw food, living the raw/vegan lifestyle, teaching it to others and even what feels like lifetimes ago, owned the first raw food cafe juice bar in my little New England town. Yet, over the last 5 years, I have jumped on the paleo band wagon…feeling ok, but not great. I had forgotten, as many of us do, all the knowledge I have tucked away. It is time to listen to the innate wisdom inside of me and it has called me to sit in the pause. To be with myself. No distractions of what to eat or drink, where, and with whom. No distraction of running to the local coffee shop between clients to get a caffeine fix to carry me through the day until I can get home and have a glass of wine to wind down. Not trusting myself is exactly what has led me right here, on the brink of doing what many people around me call drastic, even dangerous. When did consuming raw fruits and veggies become dangerous people?!

My motivation for doing this has many layers. The first being, I needed to check myself and my relationship with alcohol. For me, alcohol became a crutch at a very pivotal point in my life; the end of my marriage, followed by the beginning and devastating end of another significant relationship. Alcohol became my trusted companion. I had convinced myself almost daily that I needed it and I deserved it. It was an escape, a way to hide from feelings of despair, failure, loss, fear, love. Brene Brown says “we can’t selectively numb out. When we numb the dark, we numb the joy”. So, over the past 2+ years, I have had many come to Jesus moments surrounding alcohol and my relationship with it and the truth is, I am tired of not being fully present in my life. I want to feel it all! The good, the bad, the ugly, the achingly beautiful, the devastating blows.

The other layers of motivation are rooted in a longing for physical, spiritual and mental equilibrium; maybe even excellence. Physically I have been placing more demands on my body, training for a half marathon and ramping up weight training in an effort to feel stronger in my body and challenge myself. I began to feel that my diet wasn’t measuring up in supporting what I was asking of my body. My belly was frequently bloated and uncomfortable. I noticed ridges in my fingernails, a sign that I am not absorbing vital nutrients. I’ve developed hormonal acne. No one wants to deal with pimples, especially when you’re in your thirties. Additionally, I have been experiencing bouts of anxiety and depression, floaters in my vision, a white coating on my tongue in the morning, brain fog and extreme fatigue. All of this, a clear sign that something has to change. Spiritually, I have been on a path of intense self discovery; often a gritty and raw process. In an effort to go even deeper into my spiritual practice, to get closer to source (God if you will), and my authentic self, it has become increasingly clear that I must commit to clarity and extreme self care. Which for me meant no more numbing out and extreme mindfulness in regards to how I nourish myself overall.

After 11 days of sobriety and 10 days of feeding my body intense nutrition, coupled with 10+ hours of sleep every night of the first seven days, I am on a bit of a high. I have to be honest, the first week was painful. I was hungry! And tired! Not a good combo really, but I was oh so gentle with myself. I felt very tender and vulnerable in those first few days. Changing patterns and facing attachments to food and alcohol drudges up a lot. Everything that I had been avoiding or didn’t want to face began to bubble up to the surface. I sat with it, meditated, took epsom salt baths and slept as much as I could. Then I moved into a few days of increased energy and a total aversion to food in general. On those days I did what I could to get calories in, any way I could, which basically meant throwing everything into a blender and drinking it. Gratitude shout out to my Vitamix for carrying me through! I also experienced intense lower and mid back pain for a few days. I noticed pain in my tailbone, the site of an old snowboarding injury. After some research, I came to find out that when the body isn’t required to utilize so much energy on digestion, it is able to repair itself. Many people have claimed to experience pain in old injury sites while on a cleanse. A sign that the body is healing itself. Rad! That knowledge made the discomfort more bearable.

Moving toward day 11 I am finding myself more committed with each passing day. My energy has skyrocketed, my mind is clear, I am calm, my belly doesn’t hurt. I am keeping the food simple, eating when I am hungry and paying attention to what my body is calling for. If I want to eat watermelon for dinner….I do it!



Tearing down walls June 3, 2015

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It’s 3:30 am and I have been up for almost an hour, sporadically writing in my journal, as clarity and inspiration tap me on the shoulder like, “hey you”. I have heard that 3 am is the witching hour; a time when the veil between our world and the spirit world is thin, so we at times can more easily tap in to the Divine. I feel something intense flowing through me right now. Something that has been waiting for me to stumble upon it, but it took a commitment to clarity. It took me saying “no, not tonight” to that glass of wine. It took a willingness to drop into raw emotion today. To be vulnerable with myself and my clients, to be the girl that cried through yoga class because I just had to set whatever it was that was aching inside of me free. Sweat and tears at the same time are the ultimate dynamic duo of letting go.

There is a strong sense that it is time to shift the paradigm of the box I put myself in. I feel as if I am literally standing in a cube, discerningly looking at the four walls around me, standing boldly with a sledge hammer flung over my shoulder and bandana around my head to collect the blood, sweat, tears and debris that are inveitabley going to come with the task at hand. I am ready to take these walls down no matter what the consequence!

The funny thing about these walls is, I built them. I have a strong sense to undo my own doing. I want to bust open the plaster and let the light pour in through the cracks, because doing what is comfortable has become just too painful. You can’t bloom and stay a bud at the same time. Actually Anais Nin said it way better, “and the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”. I can not grow into all that I want to be and do and see, if these walls remain. So, as I sit here in my soft cuddly white bathrobe on my couch with dandelion root tea, listening to the birds sing their first morning song, internally I am feeling like a warrior. I am ready to keep coming up against myself and the walls that I have built. I am ready to tear them down, to face the fears that put them there in the first place, knowing that once they are gone I will be naked and vulnerable, but I will be free and more powerful for having made the journey through myself.


Inspired nighttime thoughts May 13, 2015

As I am laying in bed, reading through Chasers of the Light by Tyler Knott Gregson for the umpteenth time, I was struck by a few words in his introduction, “the miracle in the mundane”. Which led me to: I want to BE the miracle in the mundane. To live it! To dig deeper.

As I strive to take my yoga off the mat and find presence in each moment, the idea of miracle in the mundane brings a sense of weightlessness and excitement. It evokes joy and power and hope. It invites us to look closer at the leaves as they curl just before a rainstorm, or to settle into the birdsong that wakes us at dawn from a deep sleep. We are alive, with a beating heart that given the chance, can take us to the top of Everest. A beating heart that, over time and space, can overcome the deepest loss only to flutter and ache again for new beginnings; the miracle in the pain of the mundane.

I am finding my way back to me – again and again and again


Surrender yourself wide open December 11, 2014

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I’m working on getting comfortable with surrendering to my feelings. The unexpected repercussion being, I cry in public, a lot. And I’m kind of becoming ok with it. There is something truly beautiful about embracing raw emotion and letting it wash over you or even knock you over like a tidal wave. Life is in a tremendous shift for me at the moment. Moving in and out of feeling alive and ready to take on the world-for the first time stepping into my power, to just wanting to stay in bed all day with the covers over my head-to stay safe where I know the outcome. Choosing to grow outside of the comfort zone we create for ourselves is real gritty work. It exposes you. The Ego likes to incessantly chime in. I’ve been getting well acquainted with mine lately. I’m realizing my ego wants me to stay safe, to play small. And my true essence, my Divine Self, has to continuously choose to step forward. To be present. To show up, heart wide open. Willing to break open again and again.

The need to hide is absolutely appropriate in moments when us human beings need to connect with ourselves and process the array of feelings that bubble to the surface, especially in times of loss. Loss cracks us open so we can empty out. Freya Watson said it so eloquently in that “despair takes us deeply into ourselves and therefore far away from others”. I have begun to realize how important moving through these emotions as they arise is for self growth. This process requires hiding or going inward to truly melt into the process. Presence requires solitude. Each moment of despair is an opportunity for self growth and self love. Each opportunity holds within it a lesson. If we can not move into stillness and instead choose to numb out or fill the void, the lesson will inevitably show up down the road and we will once again find ourselves sprawled out in the middle of the living room floor with a bottle of vodka, wondering “how could this happen AGAIN”. Better to really feel it move through you, and move through it!

I am realizing that life is a series of beginning agains. There will always be challenges. And the more we want to grow, the more life throws our way.  I found myself recently saying in a rock bottom moment that I just want to coast for awhile. But behind the idea of mindless coasting was the life I left behind.  Coasting was exactly what I chose to step away from. Those moments when we pull ourselves up out of the coasting and find ourselves in the darkest places, they carry the weight that defines us. It is the beginning again that is the juicy part of life. Making the choice to be happy no matter what. Not so long ago in a moment where I felt wrecked by a love freight train, a friend said to me, “the sun will rise again tomorrow darling”.  And with tears streaming down my face and a heart so heavy, I smiled back at him through sticky wet eyelashes, knowing that tomorrow was mine for the taking if I wanted it. All I have to be is willing to surrender to each moment, stay present and breathe. Just breathe.


The gifts of noticing November 4, 2014

I sat tonight, listening to Radiohead and took a few minutes to notice a large maple tree in the backyard. The majority of the leaves on the tree have fallen, but the ones that remained caught the moonlight so nicely. I then looked beyond the leaves to see the clear night sky. The stars. And how through the leaves of the tree, it almost looked as though the stars were decorating it like a glowing string of lights. And I thought….why don’t I stop to NOTICE more often? Every time I stop to notice the curve of one of my daughter’s faces, or the expressions my mother makes that have become my own, or the light in a friend’s eyes as she listens intently to my struggles; I am so deeply moved because I know through experience that these are the moments in life that stay with us. This is what we are here for. Human connection to each other, to nature, to ourselves. We are all one!

I took an hour in the middle of the afternoon today to sit with friends. One of us was in need of connection, of sounding boards, to have love reflected back to her; so we showed up! But what was truly beautiful was after she had her time to process, the space was created for a talking circle of women holding the space for one another. We got real, with ourselves and each other. And the common thread woven between each of us was how we hold ourselves back. How each of us powerful, gifted women are afraid to shine. We are afraid of our own light! Yet we feel it as a constant whisper, beckoning us to greatness. So you move through the fear, trudge through the muck of self inflicted stuck ness and rise. And what I learned today is, if you can’t rise for yourself, then do it for someone you love because showing up for others is the best way to fill yourself up. And after you do that, take a moment to notice the stars or the idiosyncrasies of someone you cherish because the moonlit sky or that person you love will feel the connection and reflect your greatness back to you. Always